Today, there are a lot of people who admire themselves and love their own self. These kinds of people are called a narcissist. Narcissism is the term used to define a focus on one’s self-admiration about his own physical and mental attributes. The term originated in Greek mythology with Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.
Narcissism is considered a social and cultural problem. It can create problems in a person’s or group’s relationship with others. People with these disorders have intense unstable emotions and a distorted self-image.
Today, we have a lot of people who admire themselves, but we cannot describe all of them as narcissists. Most of the people, especially teenagers are the ones who are really aware of their own physical and mental health. Teenagers take up new trends in fashion especially their clothes, hairstyle and also about their body. But this cannot be regarded as narcissism. This is plainly just trying to impress their opposite sex.
Teenage is the formative period of life. The impressions acquired during this period last for a long time. It is the period when ambitions are cherished and goals are formed. At this period, our minds change. It is not the same as it was when we were 5 years old. One is reminded the old Cliff Richard song – “GOODBYE SAM! HELLO SAMANTHA!!”
Some of the elders may or may not like their children taking up these trends because they think that these are totally unnecessary regarding the children. They may think that their child is becoming a narcissist, that he or she is becoming more and more aware of themselves than others. But this must stop, the elders should know that their children are living at another time; they must know that their children are living differently from what the elders had lived. They should not feel that their children are being a narcissist because they are not.
We can easily point out a narcissist because they will be so obsessed with themselves that they feel a sense of superiority, arrogance, self-admiration among themselves.
Being a narcissist has both advantages and disadvantages. A narcissist has a positive feel about himself. He feels self-confident and is shameless. But a narcissist is really a problem for the society. He feels that he is the most perfect of all. He may feel superior and try to minimise other peoples. They try to seek constant attention and admiration and may sometimes take advantage of others to achieve their goal. However, these attitudes and behaviour do not reflect true self-confidence. Instead, the attitude conceals a deep sense of insecurity and a fragile self-esteem.
It is believed that people become narcissist at their young age when they experience some parenting styles or when parents have a need for their children to be talented or special in order to maintain their self-esteem. Sometimes it may develop as a result of neglect or abuse and trauma inflicted by parents or other authority figures during childhood.
It is hard to stop a narcissist from being obsessed with himself. But we can stop others from becoming a narcissist. He should be taught to accept himself as who he is. Even if we are not perfect or not, we should not feel ashamed, because all are not perfect. In fact, nobody is perfect. We should try to accept ourselves and also accept others. Only then we will succeed in life.